Pain and Love

People in teens more often than not get confused in making friends and trusting people. It also feels bad when you have a friend and suddenly things change between you. As said orthodoxically relations are driven by both sides. Then there are situations when one of the two tries hard to make things happy again . Some times such things work out, sometimes they dont. The true test what I have experienced which determines wether you are actually near and dear is that you dont feel bad even if the second does an action which hurts you. For instance if a friend is back from abroad and you still dont talk for a couple of days and meet there after, you dont feel awkward about not talking for a couple of days. The degree of trust is that high that you believe in each other. On the other hand there may be instances when a physically close friend may hurt you by just not taking you together to a movie or a mall. One should trust people as most of them are honest and good in some respect. One must also understand not to feel near to the other untill the other also feels the same and trusts you unbaised of the situation. Thats the only logic to avoid realational conflicts. Not all you like are near to you to the same extent you want them to be. Measuring the distances between you and keeping simillar expectations is must to avoid conflicts.

The various conditions which can be seen are:

Expectations > Happenings, causes Pain
Expectations = Happenings, brings satisfaction
Expectations < Happenings, causes delight

In long one must understand where does one's index stand with the other. Fruitful friendship is only on which remaiins in the second and third zone. Indeed its very tough to find friends. Continuing relationship with people in second zone leads to pain. You hardly get two or three good ones in hundred. But once one finds that his long term relationship with the other is in the trusted region, he must cherish his friends. Betraying people is the worst part of the game after that. Be judcious in mentaining relations!! Hapiness would follow you!!